I am a legacy breaker. I have consciously sought to heal and free myself of the family beliefs, patterns and system I grew up in. The Toltec's call this "breaking our domestication." And I have been aware of doing this for most of my life.
It's not that I don't love my family now. Or that I see them as "less than" who and what they are. But I have sought to be Free, consciously, and no one else in my family has done this. I have often thought of the fact that even symbolically, I am the last person in my lineage, as my father was an only child, and neither my sister nor I have chosen to be parents in this lifetime. So as the last familial member, the buck really does stop here. Sounds kind of heavy to say it outloud. But at least for today, this is true.
I have faced and felt and healed my family patterns. Of course, my new re-wiring is still a process. But these patterns I still see in my sister today; and most of them, no one else in my family is even consciously aware of.
I have healed my wounds, and perhaps the wounds of my lineage. And I behave and think and act in new and conscious ways. I am a legacy breaker.
I came across this article today by DailyOm. It says that there are currently many legacy breakers on the planet. And it also reminded me of the depth of our legacy's and how they can affect us. For example, we can carry issues of scarcity or lack, or anything for that matter, even from generations that were here long before we. Maybe a generation that lived during wartime a long time ago. And still, we may carry over these patterns in our own lives from there. It's a fascinating awareness. And with this awareness, we are free to bring that pattern to the light, and create a new beginning.
Like anything in our unfolding process, it takes time and work and practice and awareness to break the old and build the new. But here is the article I came across today.
Breaking Family Cycles
It is easy to believe that in leaving our childhood homes and embarking upon the journey of adulthood, we have effectively removed ourselves from harmful and self-perpetuating familial patterns. In looking closely at ourselves, however, we may discover that our behaviors and beliefs are still those that were impressed upon us during our youth by our parents, grandparents, and the generations that preceded them. We may find ourselves unconsciously perpetuating cycles of the previous generations, such as fear of having enough, not showing affection, and secrecy patterns. Yet the transmission of negative patterns from one generation to the next is not inevitable. It is possible to become the endpoint at which negative family cycles that have thrived for generations are exhausted and can exert their influence no longer. Breaking the pattern is a matter of overcoming those values imprinted upon us long ago in order to replace them with pure love, tolerance, and conscious awarenes!
Even if you have struggled with the cumulative effects of family cycles that were an expression of established modes of living and a reflection of the strife your ancestors were forced to endure, you can still liberate yourself from the effects of your family history. The will to divest yourself of old, dark forms of familial energy and carry forth a new loving energy may come in the form of an epiphany. You may one day simply realize that certain aspects of your early life have negatively affected your health, happiness, and ability to evolve as an individual. Or you may find that in order to transcend long-standing patterns of limiting beliefs, irrational behavior, and emotional stiltedness, you have to question your values and earnestly examine how your family has impacted your personality. Only when you understand how family cycles have influenced you can you gain freedom from those cycles.
In order to truly change, you must give yourself permission to change. Breaking family patterns is in no way an act of defiance or betrayal. It is important that you trust yourself implicitly when determining the behaviors and beliefs that will help you overwrite the generation-based cyclical value system that limited your individual potential. Many people are on the earth at this time to break family cycles, for all of you are true pioneers. In breaking negative family cycles, you will discover that your ability to express your feelings and needs grows exponentially and that you will embark upon a journey toward greater well-being that can positively impact generations to come.
And btw, I am also filled with gratitude and honor for my family. They have been great teachers and soul family, and they have also given me many gifts, including their love. Although some of it still freaks me out. It is, after all, a process.