While working with some old layering recently I realized that I still hold a significant number of beliefs and agreements, patterns and feelings in my area of wellbeing that come from my family of origin. There is a wonderful ritual in this week's daily om to assist us in breaking and healing our family patterning in areas where it does not serve us. I like that it works with the principle of love and forgiveness and look forward to this week's practice, sitting down with my family circle and releasing their paradigm to create a clean new canvas for my own. namaste


Breaking Family Ties That Bind
Parental Fears



When we really examine our fears about something, we sometimes notice that the fear we have is not based on our own experience. Often, if we trace our fear back to its source, we find that one of our parents may have handed it down to us. For example, your mother or father may have had an intense fear of lack of money, stemming from their own life experiences. If that fear was not resolved by the time you came into the picture, chances are you inherited it. Meanwhile, you may have no actual experience of lacking money, so being fearful doesn’t make sense, and it may even block you from doing certain things you want to do.

Keeping in mind that your parents were only trying to protect you, and that most of the errors in judgment they made were made with the best intentions, it might be time to release this fear symbolically. You cannot resolve someone else’s fear for them, but you can decide to let go of it on your own behalf. Whether your parents are still alive or not, it is best to do this in a symbolic way, using visualization and, if you like, ritual. One simple visualization involves inviting your parent to sit across from you in your heart space and sharing your desire to move on from this fear, letting them know that you will not carry it anymore. You may be surprised at the response you get, because it’s possible they will be proud of you, grateful, and proud of your courage.

The more we do this deep inner work with our fears, the better we will be able to parent our own children without burdening them with fears that don’t belong to them. Some of us will do as much of this work as we can before we become parents, while others will be working on this even as our children become adults. Either way, the effects will be felt, because once we break our ties to the fears of the past, our children’s ties to those fears are greatly weakened, so it’s important to remember that it’s never too late.

 

 

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Comment by Sarah Sunny on March 9, 2011 at 9:30am

Thanks Alexa, this is so spot on. Parenting our inner child isn't easy but neccesary if we are going to find inner peace, the trick for me is to remember not to do it the way my parents did.

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